Tuesday, August 12, 2014

2014 Trauma and Dissociation Conference - A Professional Conference - CEU's ?

For the "2014 Trauma and Dissociation Conference" being held Oct.3-5th in Seattle attendees will include clinicians and survivors of child abuse - as well as students, volunteers, and supporters of survivors.

This conference is a professional conference in that ceu's are offered for clinician, speakers are specialists in the field of trauma and dissociation, and those who have dissociative disorders are given the ability to learn more about trauma and dissociation. 
Felicity Lee 8/12/14 all rights protected.  Do not copy without permission.

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Trauma and Dissociation 2014 Conference - ugent update

Hi Everyone,

This is a notice to those who may be interested in attending this conference and in need of lodging.   Many of you are familiar with the Seattle area and know that late Sept. and early October are popular tourist times here - as well as for conference.  What can often happen is that hotels - ALL OF THEM - get booked and there are simply no hotels available at all anymore.  The hotel is reporting being booked out three months right now for the weekend of the conference.  That means that within possibly the next month, this hotel will be booked up.  Please, please - if you are at all planning on coming to this conference, book your rooms now.  You always have the option later of cancelling the rooms.  If you have questions, you can always contact me at felicity4us2@gmail.com.

We have rooms available in our block for the special prices still:

DoubleTree by Hilton Hotel Seattle Airport -
18740 International Boulevard, Seattle, Washington, 98188,

Please tell them that you are booking with Ivory Garden so that we get credit. If you book for longer, you can use coupons you find, etc., but still tell them to credit Ivory Garden for the rooms. Thank you.

The discounted rooms are all together and are set for Friday and Saturday nights. Ask for rates for Thursday night.

If you are sharing rooms, you can call and have them set up for each roommate. For instance, you would call in and tell them the names in your group and set up just your part (for example, for 4 ppl – 1/4th of the rate). Then, the next person would call and do the same. Any information can be changed later.

Here are the rates and information:

These rates are for 1 night (on Fri and Sat) – and are total for all guests.

Room for 1 person – $109.00 – King size bed.

Room for 2 people – $109.00 – choice of 1 king size bed or 2 queens

Room for 3 people – $114.00 – 2 queen size beds

Room for 4 people – $114.00 – 2 queen size beds

These rates are for 1 night (Thursday only) – and are total for all guests.

Room for 1-4 people – any arrangements of beds – $129.00

We only have a limited number of rooms for these prices. Please make sure that you mention Ivory Gardens when you book from our group rates.

Please give the hotel this code: IVG to let them know that you are coming for our conference and directly contact

For these special rates, contact

Ms. Bobbi Barkley, CMP CGMP | Sr. Sales Manager or ask for Kelly.

Direct (206) 248-4330

There should be no ‘pet’ charge for service dogs. Let me know if you have trouble with this.

You can have small fridge and microwave at a small charge.

We are doing what we can to get everyone here and comfortable.  It would help us tremendously, if you emailed me your name - no other information necessary until you register - so that I can make sure that you got the best rates for your rooms.

To see more about Hotel and accommodations, please click 'lodging' on our menu at website http://www.igdid.org

Thank you much,

Pat Goodwin

President Ivory Garden

Monday, June 9, 2014

2014 Trauma and Dissociation Conference (www://igdid.org)
Presented by Ivory Garden
Colin Ross, MD Schedule

We are proud to introduce guest speaker Colin Ross, MD.
Dr. Ross is an internationally renowned clinician, researcher, author and lecturer in the field of trauma-related disorders. He is the founder and President of the Colin A. Ross Institute for Psychological Trauma. Dr. Ross is the Executive Medical Director of three trauma programs located at Timberlawn Mental Health System in Dallas, Texas, Forest View Hospital in Grand Rapids, Michigan and Del Amo Hospital in Torrance, California. Dr. Ross provides treatment for patients with trauma related disorders and symptoms. This would include treatment for: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Dissociative Disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder, Addictive Disorders, Anxiety Disorders, Depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The symptoms treated and the admission criteria are: suicidal ideation, homicidal ideation, self-destructive and addictive behaviors, and inability to function. Dr. Ross has written extensively on the subject of dissociation and trauma. His latest books include Trauma Model Therapy: A Treatment Approach for Trauma, Dissociation and Complex Comorbidity. Other books by Dr. Ross include: The Trauma Model: A Solution to the Problem of Comorbidity in Psychiatry, and Schizophrenia: Innovations in Diagnosis and Treatment. Dr Ross’ books are available through his web site at www.rossinst.com, at www.amazon.com and at area bookstores. Dr. Ross has authored 170 professional papers and 27 books. He has reviewed for numerous professional journals, is a member of the American Psychiatric Association and is a Past President of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation. In addition, Dr. Ross has served as an expert witness in over 50 court cases, consulted on television, movie and video productions on trauma-related disorders, and produced six educational videos and CD’s for mental health professionals on the treatment of trauma-based disorders. Timberlawn Trauma Program Del Amo Hospital ForestView Trauma Program 1-800-426-4944 1-800-533-5266 1-800-949-8439

Dr. Ross will be presenting one plenary on the morning of Saturday, October 4, 2014:


This workshop has been approved for “1 CEUs by the Washington Chapter, National Association of Social Workers (NASW) for Licensed Social Workers, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists and Licensed Mental Health Counselors. Provider number 1975-362 (pending)
The problem of attachment to the perpetrator is one of the core elements of Dr. Ross’ Trauma Model Therapy. When a small child is abused by his or her primary caretakers, he or she is dependent for survival on the people who harm her. This causes a painful, conflicted, ambivalent attachment pattern. The pattern often persists into adulthood. One of the primary tasks of recovery is to heal the disrupted attachment patterns, and form stable secure attachments between parts of the self and between the self and other people.

1. To describe the problem of attachment to the perpetrator and its role in Trauma Model Therapy.
2. To describe the relationship between childhood trauma, disrupted attachment, grief and dissociation.
3. To describe how so-called “disorganized attachment” is the inevitable outcome of being abused by one’s primary caretakers.
4. To describe treatment strategies for resolving the problem of attachment to the perpetrator.

Workshop from 1:30-3:00 on Saturday October 4th, 2014:


This workshop has been approved for “1" CEUs by the Washington Chapter, National Association of Social Workers (NASW) for Licensed Social Workers, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists and Licensed Mental Health Counselors. Provider number #1975-362 (pending)
In the treatment of dissociative identity disorder (DID), the problem of host resistance needs to be addressed to some degree in the majority of cases. The host personality’s job is to be “resistant” – not to feel all the feelings or remember all the memories, so that function in the outside world is possible. Often, however, in adulthood, there is too much host resistance and it must be addressed in therapy. This will be explained with composite case examples. Additionally, Dr. Ross will talk about orienting alter personalities to the body and the present, which can be done quite early in recovery. Orienting alters helps de-escalate hyper-arousal, reduce self-damaging behavior like cutting, and begin the work of forming a working inner team.

1. To describe the problem of host resistance in the therapy of DID.
2. To describe treatment strategies for addressing host resistance.
3. To describe the technique of orienting alters to the body and the present in the therapy of DID.
4. To provide role-play examples of orienting alters to the body and the present.

Workshop from 3:15 – 5:15 on October 4th, 2014:


This workshop has been approved for “2" of CEUs by the Washington Chapter, National Association of Social Workers (NASW) for Licensed Social Workers, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists and Licensed Mental Health Counselors. Provider number is #1975-362 (pending)
In people with DID, there are commonly persecutor alters who want to hurt or kill the host personality, who blame the host personality for childhood abuse, and who are hostile to the therapist and the therapy. It is important to make friends with these alter personalities, and to help them realize that they are parts of the whole person, that everyone is “in it together,” and that no one is trying to get rid of them. Both the therapist and the host personality have to participate in this process. In addition to talking about persecutor alters, Dr. Ross will explain and role-play the technique of “talking through to the voices.” A lot of work can be done in DID therapy without alters having to come out during sessions, which is useful if they are too scared or angry to come out safely.

1. To describe the rationale for making friends with persecutor alters in people with DID.
2. To describe strategies for making friends with persecutor alters.
3. To describe the rationale for the technique of “talking through to the voices.”
4. To role-play examples of how to talk through to the voices.

All survivors, mental health professionals, supporters, and anyone interested in learning more about dissociative disorders are invited. Please go to www://igdid.org for more information and registration.

Copyright: Felicity Lee 2014 – do not copy any portion of this without permission from author.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Dissociative Identity Disorder: Safety in Ignorance - an article

Dissociative Identity Disorder:
Safety in Ignorance

Jamie was bred into a generational family of abuse.  They didn’t consider what they did to the child as abuse but rather ‘training’ to fit into society as expected.  She was to attend college in order to work as an attorney within the ‘organization’.   Her training began at birth.  During her early childhood, she was exposed to brutal rapes and torture by members of the organization.  Since she was viewed as an asset rather than a child with needs, the abuse came from seemingly every source.  By the age of three, the perpetrators, who were aware that abused children dissociate, had effectively set up scenarios that split her mind into several different personalities.  Before she was 5 years old, she had learned only pain, sadness, agony, and betrayal.  She knew never to tell anyone, or the punishment would be death of a friend, pet, or herself.

She learned to dissociate (go away) in order to avoid the torturous situations, never realizing that another state of mind was aware.  She learned to avoid the sad feelings of having no one there who cared enough to protect her, not knowing that another state of mind carried those feelings.  She learned that there were only two ways to avoid the ongoing agony: dissociation or suicide.  Mostly, she learned to behave normally in public and for the next 40 years, she managed to behave as if her family of origin was perfect, being the product of loving and nurturing parents.

She always knew the sad and pain inside and never forgot the threats of telling.  As long as she acted normally, all would be well in her life.  She would attend the best schools, marry well, and have the perfect family.  That was her cross to bear – her heritage.

Throughout her life, Jamie struggled with the symptoms of dissociative identity disorder (DID), as do most children who use the defense of dissociation to deal with extreme abuse.  She always felt as if her outside life were a fog, unreal and timeless.  This is called ‘derealization’ and a symptom of DID. She could never remember to eat and had no connection with her body.  It also seemed unreal.  This is called ‘depersonalization’ – another symptom of DID.  She often lost time; seemingly waking up in places she did not recognize feeling much younger than her age.  This is often termed ‘switching’ – yet another symptom of DID.  Though she lived her life in a state of self-hatred, she knew she was as she had been carefully taught – damned.

Jamie is but one in some million abused children struggling with living adult life as a survivor of abuse.  Not all have dissociative disorders, but many do – about 1-3% of the population.   Though these statistics are reality, articles and information are written by groups of ‘professionals’ who claim that there is really ‘no such thing as DID’.  These articles also invalidate the people who have been diagnosed with DID and/or treat dissociated clients.  It soon becomes obvious that the topic of trauma and dissociation is actually viewed by many as ‘controversial’.

I remember when I was first diagnosed with DID some 10 years ago.  I ran home from the doctor and began researching the diagnosis.  I learned that there were vocal groups who not only hated me, but also the few mental health professionals who I could look to for help with my symptoms.  One group, the False Memory Syndrome Foundation (FMSF), have been in the media since the 90’s spreading such nonsense that there is a syndrome called ‘false memory syndrome’.  This happens when a person remembers any childhood abuse.  Another popular tale is that therapists who treat dissociation ‘implant false abuse memories’ into their clients’ brains.  Most importantly, these folks poke fun at the DID diagnosis stating that clients come to ‘believe’ they have DID from their therapists – called ‘iatrogenic DID’ or ‘therapy induced’.    According to Dr. Paul McHugh (a well-know FMSF member):
“Once the patient permits the therapist to "talk to the part . . . who is taking those long drives," the patient is committed to having MPD and is forced to act in ways consistent with this role. The patient is then placed into care on units or in services - often titled "the dissociative service" - at the institution. She meets other patients with the same compliant responses to therapists' suggestions. She and the staff begin a continuous search for other "alters." With the discovery of the first "alter," the barrier of self-criticism and self-observation is breached. No obstacles to invention remain.

Countless numbers of personalities emerge over time. What began as two or three may develop to 99 or 100. The distressing symptoms continue as long as therapeutic attention is focused on finding more alters and sustaining the view that the problems relate to an "intriguing capacity" to dissociate or fractionate the self.

At Johns Hopkins, we see patients in whom MPD has been diagnosed because symptoms of depression have continued despite therapy elsewhere. Our referrals have been few and our experience, therefore, is only now building, probably because our views - that MPD may be a therapist-induced artifact - have only recently become generally known in our community” (McHugh, 1995).

Dr. McHugh is an educator and a doctor.  He, and others like him, have trained and are now training scores of people who have and will be entering the mental health field.  These folks were not only trained, but rewarded for accepting such nonsense as ‘truth’.

I do recall my university studies in the area of psychology.  During my some 6 years in university, I never learned about DID/MPD and only remember learning how to spell ‘dissociation’ despite that theories of dissociation were first written about during 1869, when French neurologist Pierre Janet discovered that a system of ideas split off from the main personality when he hypnotized his female patients. Soon afterward, William James, the father of American psychology, uncovered a similar phenomenon and termed the condition ‘disassociation’.  The theory of DID has been around since then.

Many have asked why our society seems to listen to and believe such garbage as ‘false memory syndrome’, ‘iatrogenic DID’, therapists having the ability to or even wanting to ‘implant memories’ in their clients’ brains.  And, for those who care, answers creep forward.  Are the members and/or followers of the FMSF (who does have a shady history) and other professionals who perpetrate this controversy financially benefitting from child abuse?  Are they just ignorant and/or too lazy to research dissociation and or the effects of trauma on children?   What’s the deal?

I have come in contact with mental health professionals who not only have set beliefs that DID does not exist, but refuse to treat it and actually emotionally abuse those who seek treatment.  Therefore, I have learned to hide, as I did as a child from unsafe people who are meant to keep us safe.  Those seeking help ‘avoid’ those who are meant to help us, because they ‘avoid’ us by believing that we aren’t ‘real’.  
As a society, we find safety in ignorance – we avoid anything that seems unsafe.  We believe what seems the safest to believe.  And, when we live this way – we die ignorant.
Why is it difficult to believe that so many folks struggle with symptoms of DID?  Clearly, there is no such ‘syndrome’ as ‘false memory syndrome’.  At least, there has never been any evidence to prove such a thing.  Therapists do not have the power to ‘implant memories’ in their clients brains, and DID happens as an affect of extreme trauma at an early age.
Is it easier to invalidate folks who have endured horrible abuse at the hands of their caretakers than to help them?  For gosh sakes – these people have lived through hell with nobody to protect or stand for them.  They aren’t suffering from ‘false memory syndrome’ or ‘iatrogenic DID’, but from horrifying flashbacks, lost time, confusing derealization and depersonalization, eating disorders, low self-esteem, relationship problems, and more.

These folks cannot regain their childhood, but deserve respect and support now as they struggle to live in a world that holds everything they always deserved.  At the very least, they should not have to fear the mental health system that has the education available to treat and finally give these folks some help.

Anyone who invalidates the reality of DID only needs to think for themselves – and, disregard those who, for whatever reason, promulgate the notion that DID is not real.  We, who have DID are real; we only need professional therapists to help us realize that.  Maybe, you don’t like ‘knowing’.  Maybe, avoiding us – dissociating our reality is easier.  Maybe, deciding that we are all looking for attention helps you get through a day.

From the very beginning of our life, we learn to act normally, to fit in with society’s expectations.  And, within our society are beliefs that hold us all together: parents nurture their children teaching them right from wrong; teachers ensure that their students behave and learn according to rules within the status quo; friends and family accept that what happens ‘behind closed doors’ is not their business; only criminals of low social standing would ever abuse a child; children cannot be believed.

These are the lies you are told.  We, with DID, live in a hell no singleton could ever understand and/or believe.  Few stand for us.  Those who do are our heroes.  They put their reputations on the line, their time caring for the adults who were never heard.  And, they put themselves out there to educate others.  
Those who care know who you are, and you know that you give us life and a strength we never realized we have always held deep inside.  We are survivors and together, we are strong.  The glue that holds us together, the foundation that holds us up is those therapists who are there for us – believing, validating and helping us heal.

I have written this article in thanks to my wonderful therapist and in asking that other therapists take the time to give us a chance.  Join adult survivors of abuse, other therapists, and supporters at the 2014 Trauma and Dissociation Conference being held on October 3-5.  We aren’t asking anyone to change their ‘beliefs’, but to come listen with an open heart to a full schedule of educational opportunities; to take part in valuable workshops and hear plenaries presented by educators and practitioners in the area of trauma and dissociation.   Please visit:  www.igdid.org.

Source: Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, July 1995 v34 n7 p957(3).

Copyright:  Felicity Lee 5/11/14

You do not have the right to copy this article without permission of the author.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Felicity Lee - Pat Goodwin Who is Felicity Lee / Patricia Goodwin?

Who is Felicity Lee / Patricia Goodwin – President Ivory Garden?

About Felicity Lee/Pat Goodwin

Felicity Lee / Pat Goodwin
Felicity Lee / Pat Goodwin
I am the president of Ivory Garden and the ‘owner’ (in title only) of Ivory Garden DID Support Group –formed in 2007.

I am a private person and prefer to keep my personal life private, but have now found it necessary to publish more information about myself.

During my lifetime, I have taken in more than 20 foster children (who all treated me well), raised them, and am still in touch with them.

I am 62 years old and have worked in many different fields including: accounting (county treasurer office), financing, Real Estate, and as a certified special education teacher. (I will attach a short resume). In all lines of work, I have been fingerprinted and was trusted with large amounts of money. My fingerprints are currently on record.

I have two grown sons, ages 42 yo and 37 yo. Both are employed, educated, and doing well. The oldest is married, and the youngest is single. I have a close relationship with both my sons and love them unconditionally. I am so very proud of them both.

I was married for 25 years and divorced about 10 years ago. Following my divorce, I moved to a small trailer on land, which I own. I live on a fixed income, but get by. My pride is such that I have never asked anyone if I could borrow money. My credit rating is excellent. My ethics and credibility are well-known within my personal life as exemplary.

I have struggled with symptoms stemming from extreme child abuse for many years and been working with therapists for about 12 years.

I have always enjoyed working with people. When the symptoms of DID and Epilepsy became such that I could no longer work – about 10 years ago, I became despondent. I could not imagine sitting around doing nothing. I decided to begin an online support group for folks who struggled with similar feelings/situations as mine. I founded Ivory Garden DID Support Group. It began with only a few members, but the group has grown over time. We have wonderful staff. We encourage members to discuss with validation and respect for other. We discourage gossip; we do not allow bashing or defamation. IGDID.com has grown to include about 2,000 members – about 400-500 participating actively. I have never met such a wonderful and compassionate group of folks. We have a large staff – all volunteering their time. We do not charge anything, but do ask for voluntary donations.

Last October members of IGDID.com decided that they wanted to put on a conference – different than any other conference, where survivors, mental health professionals, and supporters could all attend the workshops and plenaries. I took it upon myself to ask speakers who I thought would be best suited to present to this audience. I went to work putting together this conference with very little help and/or experience. I have made lanyards, dolls, bracelets, and trinkets, put together 2 websites, and promoted the conference as best I could without outside help. It has been fun, and meeting new people has been exciting. I have never asked for any money for my time – only a bit of money for beads to make the lanyards for attendees and speakers.

Everyone at Ivory Garden is excited about the conference and the speakers they will hear. It is so very amazing that we will be able to make this conference work for everyone.
I will say that it all becomes stressful for me at times, and I sometimes lose faith that it will ever happen. I know folks are counting on me, and at times, I question my abilities. I guess this is common. There will always be ups and downs and times where I will become overwhelmed, afraid, or sad in all avenues of my life. That is why I make sure that I have good mental and medical health care.

All in all, who am I?

I am a compassionate, hard working person who cares for all, especially victims of and/or survivors of child abuse/trauma. Possibly, this makes me vulnerable to people who can victimize me. Possibly, this makes me a ‘target’. But, this target will continue moving forward despite who is throwing what darts my way.
Thank you for reading.




Short Resume

Pacific Lutheran University
MA – Education 1999-2001
• Studied Education, Special Education, Literature, Psychology, Abuse, English, Middle School curriculum, and completed student teacher requirements.
• Dissertation – “Achieving excellence in today’s classrooms” OCLC Number: 62735622, published 2001
Pacific Lutheran University
Bachelor of Arts 1994-98
• Graduated – Cum laude
• Major – Psychology
• Minor – English with writing emphasis
• Minor – sociology
Ivory Garden
President 2011-present
• oversee operation of non-profit org
• update and service design and operation of all Ivory Garden message boards and websites
• interact with and supervise staff of all Ivory Garden boards
• supervise daily operations of Ivory Garden boards and sites
Ivory Garden – DID Support Group
Owner – in title only
• update design of Ivory Garden board and website
• interact with and oversee staff
• provide educational material and resources for members and staff
• Interact with members daily and enforce guidelines of the Ivory Garden message board
• promote Ivory Garden DID support group
• Perform all other duties as ‘Owner’ (in title only) of Ivory Garden DID Support Group
Certified Teacher
• Taught middle school special education – middle school.
• Teaching – certified State of Washington with expertise in k-8, all grades: special education, English, Language Arts, and Psychology.
• Web-design, research, writing.
• Accounting, finance.
I am a survivor of early childhood abuse. I am diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder, and Complex PTSD. Following my retirement, I built Ivory Garden DID Support Group where I spend most of my time. I also research and study in the area of trauma and dissociation. I have created many videos on the subject. I am an advocate for survivors of early childhood abuse – and, especially the diagnosis of DID. I love working with survivors. I am a believer that providing and circulating solid and reliable information helps survivors to gain better mental health care and a public understanding of the dx of DID.


My name on the boards is “Dymond.” At the moment I am at a loss for words that anyone would attempt to discredit this phenomenal resource and the people that work so hard to keep it functioning so well. There are simply no words than can adequately convey how valuable this resource is and the depth of empathy, support, and understanding those playing leadership roles offer to those who come seeking support. Around the turn of the year, when returning to a book project as a part of my healing journey my life began to unravel when those who abused me in the past began to harass me. I was at a wits end, and I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that if it were not for the wisdom and guidance I have received on this board I might not be here today. This community was here for me at a time I really needed it in a way that only a survivor can provide support in way of sharing information. In my life outside of this community I work as a receptionist and am part of an international arts collective active in the arts community as a dancer, choreographer, visual artist, musician and producer. Good for the community for drawing boundaries! Best of luck with the conference. Although I will not be there in bodily form I will be there in spirit.
What you all have created here is amazing. I would love to reveal my identity but its not possible at the moment. The nearest I can get is a pic of my Dog. Felicity you do an amazing job. I hope the conference goes really well.
Felicity Lee is well-loved by the members of the Ivory Garden DID support group. She is a caring person who does extraordinary work making this forum a safe and supportive one. Her contributions of time and expertise borne of personal experience are invaluable. She is committed to helping those of us who struggle with DID and its effects on our lives. This is a self-less commitment to an under-served population who are in great need. She has never represented herself as a professional in this field. She is rather a peer. And as a peer, she brings a perspective that is validating and comforting. The work she is doing on behalf of this community is vital, and it is deeply appreciated.
My name is Shirley Davis aka Morgan on Ivory Garden. I have been a member of Ivory Garden for two years and have spoken to Felicity Lee/Pat Goodwin many times on the phone. She is in my opinion a kind, generous and honorable woman. She has worked tirelessly on the Trauma and Dissociation Conference to be held in Seattle in October even though she has been very ill with the flu. I am greatly disturbed by the reports that Felicity/Pat has endeavored to harm people using the Ivory Garden website. Anyone who is active on the site will tell you that because of her tireless efforts and sacrifices we feel safe to go to IGDID.com to share our feelings, emotions, fears, and past hurts. Because of Felicity and the other Administrators we are kept safe because they constantly keep an eye on the site looking out for any who would harm us. Yes, there are strict rules that keep all safe such as no threats of suicide. Even these though removed from the ‘board’ are met with compassion as the people involved are asked and implored to seek professional help. There is also no bashing of other members or of the administration allowed. A person would have to commit a serious breach of the rules to be banned by Felicity/Pat and I believe that is what has happened and that the person involved has taken it upon themselves to defame her good name and character. I trust Felicity/Pat implicitly and our other Administrators as well.
Thank you.
Shirley Davis
I am honored to know Felicity and have spoken with her on several occasions regarding the upcoming conference in October. When I found Ivory Garden DID Support Group, I was looking for a place where there was actual support, encouragement and education to aid in healing in the areas of dissociation and childhood trauma. Because of the guidelines set forth on the Boards, you don’t run across a lot of gossip or bashing of members, even if they are on other Boards. On the rare occasion it occurs, it is removed very quickly as the foremost expectations are for respect and safety. I am excited to be a part of Ivory Garden and the upcoming Ivory Garden Trauma & Dissociation Conference. It is different from other “survivor” conferences and educational conferences for therapists, in that we are not there to hear survivor childhood stories, but instead to learn from professionals, tools that will enable us to move forward in our healing journeys. Yes, there will be times we can share with one another, but the wonderful focus of the conference is the goal that survivors, our loving supporters and therapists can all work together to gain a greater understanding of what helps us find our path toward a successful healing journey in our lives. Felicity and the Ivory Garden Board have that vision and are employing it. We all understand that this approach is not a common one, yet many of us believe it is well overdue. What an awesome opportunity for therapists to see clients in an educational environment, clients to understand the various techniques therapists are learning to employ and supporters to learn from both in how they can actively support their loved ones in difficult times. All this because Felicity Lee had the life experiences to see that it can come together to benefit all who are affected and seeking to move forward…from supporter/teacher/therapist to clients wanting to live a life to the fullest, as it should have originally been. Thank you, Felicity Lee, for all you do!
I have gotten to know felicity since I joined. She has always been caring and understanding. She has worked hard to make this site a safe place for all of us. I have talked to her on the phone and can tell her devotion to this site and the conference.
Thank you for making IGDID.com
Lady Talos
We just love you so mush for everything you do here!
The originalkido bunch and I, Valynn could never find the perfect words to thank you for creating such a safe place to come. From time to time you hear of some who try to hurt this place. However we personally have not been affected. We think this is highly due to the wonderful team you have put together that work so hard to make this place a safe space. You and all the admins/team/staff keep things running great and we want to say thank you again for that. It has been a gift to have a place where you are understood and supported in such a kind and caring way. Our hope is this place will be around forever and continue growing to help others like ourselves. Thanks again and again and again!
You are an amazing person…you take people in need in, and you got screwed over. This one person can’t take the conference down. And by the way, if there is any contact with this individual, you can tell them that so many of us are so excited about this conference!!!!!
It infuriates me that you offer your home to someone who took advantage. But can you just remember that here, at IG, we all love you…
And you telling your story??? You were very brave. We are going to this conference. Too many people want to and it is already set up. I am so sorry you got taken advantage of, gosh that just makes me so mad!!!!
hang in there Felicity,
we care deeply
Although I cannot come to this conference and so wish I could, I believe this is another beautiful chapter of this wonderful supportive movement, and I support you 100% I wish nothing but the best for and to all going. This is a huge opportunity to bridge many gaps in the understanding, treatment, and support of DID.
I met Felicity almost six years ago when I found Ivory Garden DID Support Group online. I felt very alone in my diagnosis of DID, and was hoping to find people who I could relate to, that could also relate to me. She has always been there to answer any questions I may have about the website, and she has been a friend to me, as well. I have worked closely with her since I’ve become a moderator for the board. I know she cares very deeply about the members of the website, and I have known her to devote so much time and attention to anyone that is in need. I know I would be lost without IGDID Support Group.
I am writing this in support of Felicity and the amazing place that we call Ivory Garden.
Ivory Garden is not just an on-line support group. IG is not just a place where members share their stories or struggles or hang out in chat together–though we certainly do that and so much more. IG is like a true family yet not like the families of our childhood that many of us here were hurt by. IG is a place where members feel the safety to share with others who, though very different in backgrounds and specific histories, truly ‘get’ what it is like to walk the healing journey of one with a dissociative disorder.
IG would not exist without the vision, passion, dedication, and tirelessness of Felicity Lee. IG is the safe and nurturing place it is because Felicity and the other administrators and staff hold strictly to the values and principles of mutual respect, validation, caring, healthy boundaries, and support for one another.
I can truly say that IG has been an amazing and integral support for me and has helped me so much in my own healing journey. It has also fostered my own growth in learning how to better support and express empathy and caring towards others. I am so very, very grateful for IG and for the incredible garden Felicity has created. And I look so very forward to the amazing conference in October, and cannot wait to meet so many of my friends from IG and to continue to learn strategies for healing.
Felicity is an amazing individual and, in spite of her traumatic past, has worked so very hard to heal and not stay stuck there. She exemplifies what it means to fight for regaining one’s life out of an abusive past and to begin to live again.
I am so thankful for Felicity and her vision and support she has shown to me during the time I have been here, and I am deeply honored to be able to be a part of Ivory Garden, both as a member and staff person. Thank you so much Felicity!
menagerie, Ivory Garden member since November 2013
Felicity has been placed on this earth to help others with DID. I can’t believe the courage, and vision it took to put together the IG gardens website and upcoming conference. I actually oversee large events at work and understand how stressful this call all be.
My therapists kept wanting me to reach out to my family and get support during my healing. However, my sisters have suffered enough so I didn’t want to include them in my issues. Nor did I wish to burden my own children with my problems. So when I found IG forum it was the answer to my prayers. It has given me a place of support, understanding, education, and comfort when needed. I don’t think I would have made it through the past six months without having this placed to come to for help. It has kept me from getting depressed as much, and allowed me to continue to work, which is critical as a single mom without other support.
I have been on this board for 2 years now. I have gotten to know personal things about felicity she is an inspiration. I hope that I can achieve quarter of her accomplishment. And countless people she has help.
I have nothing but positive thoughts for this community. I m still not sure what’s going on but I low that this amazing garden has helped me so much and I m sure most all people on the forum feel this way. I m mother of 3. Not all are biologically mine but it doesn’t matter. There been nothing but openness and understanding and compassion
I m spreading peaceful thoughts over this special community.
RS Violin
I have known Felicity for more than 5 years, and I have found her resilient, persevering, kind, altruistic, and an amazing encourager. I am so thankful for her personal attention and care at times that I have suffered from DID and questioned everything about myself and my identity and my ability to have my own mind.
It saddens me to hear that anyone would speak against this wonderful woman who has gone out of her way to help me–a total stranger at the start.
I appreciate all that she has done to help those of us with DID to cope with the diagnosis and it’s effects on our lives. I thank her for her concern, her openness, and her advocacy, and this conference that she is putting together is needed to help professionals and others understand more about the reality of DID instead of relying on myths and sensationalized misinformation.
My prayers are with you, Felicity, and I will continue to support you and trust you!
I joined Ivory Garden in 2004 and have been an active member since then. Felicity has worked tirelessly and created a place that is safe, where people can be authentic and where support from other members is unprecedented. I honour, admire and respect Felicity whom I have known for 4 years. She is an intelligent, resourceful, caring person with honourable intentions within her on-line group.
I have not been subjected to any disrespectful people on Ivory Gardens. Felicity has kept this sacred place safe to ensure privacy and confidentiality of its members. I have heard about former members who have bashed the staff and were unable to follow the guidelines and rules that make Ivory Gardens unique. I have always been astounded because I cannot imagine anyone having any reason to be unkind towards Felicity and this magnificent on-line support group.
I feel privileged to be a part of this group that continues to expand and grow and provide more and more resources to its members. I have never doubted that the intentions of any activities taking place within this group / company have been for the greater good of its members.
In addition to my therapy, I seek the kind and gentle support provided here on Ivory Gardens. I have made many trusting on-line relationships because Felicity created this place. I have had personal phone calls with Felicity who has always been open to members thoughts and ideas. She is supportive and truly cares about individual members making all feel important and welcome.
I have referred this support group to vulnerable healing people who have had nothing but wonderful experiences. I personally would like to thank Felicity for giving me a place to play, learn, vent, support and share milestones.
Thank you, Tori
i have known Felicity (Pat Goodwin) a long time, 6-7 years and seen her do amazing things with message boards. She is artistic, and very caring, and has an ability to manage people well. I am referring to managing staff and people involved in the Conference.
As president of Ivory Garden she is showing her ability to use all her talents she has developed over the years.
I am proud to be Felicity’s friend in the personal sense. Krathyn
I joined Ivory Garden about a year ago.
I had no, in real life support, other than a counselor, at that time.
I found out in late 2012 that I was dissociative from severe childhood trauma.
Not knowing much about dissociation, I went looking online.
I feel very fortunate to have found Ivory Garden.
This is a place of support and caring. I have never experienced any negativity.
Felicity Lee works tirelessly to keep this site safe for all survivors of trauma. She watches out for all members here, to keep them safe.
I know she works behind the scenes a lot, but whenever she answers a post it is with understanding and support.
I am looking forward to the conference this October and meeting all my IG friends!

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